gabrielle loves tara: a wedding blog

An Eight-Word Love Story

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:59:56 -0800

I left this note written on a post-it for Gabrielle this earlier this week on her desk. She was downstairs doing her reading for class, making rice for our take-out-Chinese-food dinner, and I was upstairs finishing up grading a stack of essays.

I suddenly felt this sentiment so strongly.

Without any mention of my note’s existence, this morning I found her reply on mine.

This is love.

This is what I came home to a few weeks ago. She has an...

Wed, 25 Jan 2012 23:23:00 -0800

This is what I came home to a few weeks ago. She has an explanation, but I think she may be missing the point…

A Little Word of Advice to GOP Hopeful Rick Santorum Sent Lovingly from the Gays

Fri, 20 Jan 2012 20:56:00 -0800

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Tue, 06 Dec 2011 23:10:07 -0800

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Tue, 06 Dec 2011 23:09:36 -0800

Tara is such a catch. She spent the evening sewing table...

Tue, 06 Dec 2011 23:08:00 -0800

Tara is such a catch. She spent the evening sewing table runners, tree skirts, and making the house look like the interfaith fairy visited…

I studied until I just couldn’t on Sunday, then we walked...

Tue, 06 Dec 2011 23:07:00 -0800

I studied until I just couldn’t on Sunday, then we walked down to a little gardening center that sold Christmas trees with our old lady shopping cart to buy a tree. :)

Four Years of "I Love You"s

Thu, 01 Dec 2011 18:34:00 -0800

Four years ago today (gosh, was it only then?!), I called Gabrielle up on the phone frantically with an urgent matter: I had realized that I was in love with her.

Library Runs

Sun, 06 Nov 2011 10:32:00 -0800

My library runs include a stack of 4-6 audiobooks every month to listen to while in the car during my commute, a mix of canonical literature I never ended up reading, contemporary best sellers that I’ve been meaning to read, ridiculously written chick-lit that’s always entertaining to read, and young adult novels that are good for me read and recommend (or teach) to my students.

Gabrielle’s typical library runs are less frequent and more browsed, but include an equally diverse representation of her interests.

The L Life: Extraordinary Lesbians Making a Difference and Sacred Places of a Lifetime (for Gabrielle), ReSew: Turn Thrift-Store Finds Into Fabulous Designs and S.E.W.: Sew Everything Workshop (Gabrielle’s picks for me), Judaism for Two: A Spiritual Guide for Strengthening and Celebrating Your Loving Relationship (Gabrielle’s pick for us), and How to Grow Food and The Vegetable Gardener’s Container Bible (for us and our home).

Oh it’s a strange and surprising process…

Sun, 23 Oct 2011 15:44:49 -0700

Oh it’s a strange and surprising process…

Pumpkin Patching in Half Moon Bay

Sun, 16 Oct 2011 22:39:37 -0700

After going on four years of living the Bay Area, Gabrielle and I have discovered our share of our favorite regular sweet spots for both everyday and special occasion places. We have our regular donut shop, our regular favorite bar, our regular spot to sit in Dolores Park, our regular Farmer’s Market and Farmer’s Market booths, our regular Christmas tree pick-up corner, and even our favorite regular pumpkin patch.

Soon after moving here, we discovered that Half Moon Bay, famous for being a cute little coastal town off of beautiful bendy Highway 1 and for their annual Pumpkin Festival each October, was our favorite sweet spot for pumpkin patching. We’ve been going to Bob’s Vegetable Stand and Pumpkin Farm for the past couple of years and frolicking in his pumpkin fields every October until we find the right pumpkins (one big one for me to carve, one medium-sized one for Gabrielle to have, and one small one for Macky) to take home with us. Going to Bob’s each year has become a tradition, and there we can enjoy the beautiful field, the mountains, and even the beach right on the other side of the road.

Our pumpkin selection process at Bob’s is always the same. It’s a rigorous one and can be a bit unconventional…

We seek out qualified pumpkin candidates from all ends of the patch, searching near and far for the right ones to bring home…

Overcoming challenging obstacles… Heavy wheelbarrow loads…

…Eventually we find the perfect one for us and to take home.

This one right here’s a keeper.

Here’s to us celebrating our five year anniversary together this month. I know there’ll be many more years of new traditions (and pumpkin patches!) in our future…

She Said/She Said: Ten Favorite Photos from Our Two Week Vacation

Mon, 03 Oct 2011 21:36:00 -0700

Favorite Vacation Picture #1:

Our first part of our vacation started with a house exchange with a family from Sonora, CA. (We’re a part of HomeForExchange.com, and although in the past six months that we’ve been on the site we’ve received probably close to a eighty or ninety offers, this was our first one!) The family that we exchanged with let us know that they just got a tiny kitten a week before our arrival, so you can imagine how surprised we were when we found this even smaller kitten along with it and a note saying that they just got the second kitten a day before! It was adorable bliss; adorable jumping-and-attacking-your-feet-under-the-covers-all-night-long-but-then-cuddling-with-you-with-fuzzy-fur bliss.

Favorite Vacation Picture #2:

We did lots of cool things in Sonora, CA, including walking around the town (which was an old Gold Rush town) and going for a hike to Natural Bridges, which led to a creek and a cave and us swimming through and kissing under the waterfall in the cave (amazing!—and really unfortunate that we didn’t take our camera with us). On the last day there, we drive to Pinecrest Lake and kayaked together for the first time all around the lake, which was surrounded by mountains and hiking trails, and beautiful, huge, wooded houses! (So lovely!)

Favorite Vacation Picture #3:

Our second part of our vacation was going on our church small group (GESG) camping trip to Point Gualala. Gabrielle and I drove with our friend Miriam up there first, and were soon joined by our friends Jeanette, Joel, and Shawn. While we waited for our second half to join us, we went for a hike (and saw some amazing views!), collected wood, set up the tents and food table, poured some drinks, and started endless rounds of Liar’s Dice. Gabrielle and I left the group early the next day to go back to the Bay and catch our flight to New Orleans!

Favorite Vacation Picture #4:

After flying all night and landing in the hot New Orleans sun, nothing was as good as stuffing ourselves full of beignets and coffee and orange juice at Cafe Dumont!

Favorite Vacation Picture #5:

New Orleans is beautiful, but it sure is hot! Our first day there we mostly walked around a lot of different neighborhoods, and took several breaks to duck inside bars for drinks. This was us at the U.S.’s oldest gay bar, Cafe Lafitte in Exile! It was pretty low key, but we got into conversations with the bartenders and other patrons, and it was definitely a good time and break from the heat!

Favorite Vacation Picture #6:

We walked from the French Quarter all the way to the ship (over two miles) with all of our luggage so we could see the city and also save some bucks. By the time we finally got on the ship, the afternoon glare from the river was so bright that it took several attempts to manage even this shot!

Favorite Vacation Picture #7:

Our first steps in Progreso, Yucatan, Mexico! (We also picked up this hat for Gabrielle in Sonora, CA—-which definitely came in handy during our time in Progreso and Cozumel!)

Favorite Vacation Picture #8:

In Progreso, we visited the Dzibilchaltun Mayan ruins where we saw the Temple of the Dolls (which is where Gabrielle is sitting in this picture), the plaza and amphitheater, and all the other archelogical sites. Our tour guide taught us a lot about astrology and even explained the truth about the Mayan calendar (so we’re not going to die in a year and a half after all! phew!). At the end of our trip, we went into Cenote Xlakah, a natural freshwater sinkhole and swam around with the sardines and lilly pads and surrounded by this beautiful old city! (It totally cooled the Mexico heat, too.)

Favorite Vacation Picture #9:

This is my favorite shot from Mexico. After the ruins, we walked around downtown Progreso and had some delicious Mexican food and margaritas (without ice) and ran into this family with this droopy, sleepy baby in the dad’s arms. Gabrielle and I both squealed a bit when we saw the baby, and when I asked (in very broken Spanish) if I could take their picture, the dad smiled up at me, and scooped up the baby proudly and tighter in his arms. Somehow the way the baby was laying so lazily out of the hot Mexican sun and the way the dad just gazed down and was all too proud to prop him up for a picture makes me smile…

Favorite Vacation Picture #10:

Gabrielle’s birthday! (By this time, Gabrielle was starting to feel a bit moody about getting older…) Because her actual birthday was the day we were flying back, we started celebrating that night. After buying her a couple of drinks and enjoying them with our older gay boy friends that we made while there, we watched our last sunset on the ship on our way back to New Orleans. (Afterwards, many more birthday celebratory drinks and cakes were bought and had with all of our other friends that we made aboard, including our lovely dinnermates!)

Texts After a Friend's Baby Birth Announcement

Thu, 29 Sep 2011 12:41:00 -0700

Tara: Gabey. I want a baby. Very very soon.
Gabrielle: Oh my.

[End of conversation.]

For date night, we went for a short hike up Bernal Heights hill....

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 22:50:00 -0700

For date night, we went for a short hike up Bernal Heights hill. (We try to find excuses to walk up here as much as we can.)

Currently Contemplating:

Mon, 19 Sep 2011 22:37:31 -0700

-Missing midwestern fall. I want crisp, sunny October days. I want to kick through piles of leaves, in a sweater, on the way to get a cup of Dunkin Donuts coffee.

-Reoccurring thoughts of getting a tattoo.

-Grad School: Harder than I was expecting.

-Coconut Milk ice cream is a new favorite. Tara, sweetly, bought me the ice cream attachment to our KitchenAid and we finally used it last weekend to make Strawberry Coconut with Chocolate Chips. Divine.

-We’ve almost been together for five years (!!). Tara informed me she wants a toothbrush, or more accurately (I think), she wants my permission to buy a $100+ toothbrush without my dramatic death throws on the floor of Bed, Bath, & Beyond. I think I can give her that.

-We owe at least a short vacation review! It was awesome. I wish we were still gone. We can’t handle humidity anymore. Also, there were beignets in abundance. That’s pretty much the gist…this was one of the views out of our hotel in New Orleans.

Good Day for the Gays!

Mon, 19 Sep 2011 13:30:00 -0700

1.) Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is over as of 12:01am tonight!

2.) California Supreme Court Chief Judge Ware decided to release the Proposition 8 court tapes so that everyone can see that there’s not a single good reason why gay marriage shouldn’t be legal!

3.) The first transgendered star on Dancing With the Stars is premiering tonight! (Dancing With the Stars has been getting a lot of crap about it, so make sure that you support Chaz Bono!)

Shock and Awe

Sun, 18 Sep 2011 10:02:00 -0700

Appalled at Gabrielle’s secrecy and behavior; we’ve been together for nearly five years and she’s known how to make perfect nutella crepes this whole time!?

San Francisco at Its Finest

Sat, 17 Sep 2011 11:18:00 -0700

Tara: Wanna watch the new Muni fight video with me?
Gabrielle: No thanks, I'm okay.
Tara: It includes a macing and an exposed buttocks...
Gabrielle: Well... alright.

StoryCorps is an amazing organization that I started recently...

Sat, 27 Aug 2011 18:51:57 -0700

StoryCorps is an amazing organization that I started recently following. Their mission is to “provide Americans of all backgrounds and beliefs with the opportunity to record, share, and preserve the stories of their lives.” They help aid the process of recording, make the recordings public, and place all of their (so far 30,000) stories in the American Folklife Center at the Library at Congress.

Today, I asked Gabrielle to sit down and watch this animated version of one of the stories with me. Her, a bit impatient that I was interrupting her first week of school reading (but that’s another post), sat down on my lap. By the time the story finished, she was bawling her eyes out, arms wrapped around me.

For me, the part about walking down the aisle(s) together really hit a cord.

Thanks, Danny and Annie.

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Thu, 11 Aug 2011 20:59:31 -0700